Guest blog by Sholom—
Faithful Anxiety & Fears
Too many men and women who struggle with attraction to the same sex grow up believing that they themselves are the sin. Not their actions. Not their choices. Their very existence. They internalize the message that they are broken, blasphemous, or offensive to God simply for having feelings they did not choose. That belief wounds deeply, and it is not true.
You are NOT a sin.
You are NOT an abomination.
You are NOT rejected by God.
You are loved in God’s eyes—fully, deeply, and without condition.
Attraction to the same sex is not a sin. For those who choose to believe in Scripture—and that belief is a choice—only homosexual acts are prohibited. The attraction itself is not condemned. It is not a moral failure.
God’s love does not flicker on and off depending on our behavior. He loves you when you succeed. He loves you when you fall. He loves you when you abstain, and He loves you when you wrestle. He loves you when you are strong, and He loves you when you feel exhausted and confused. His love is not earned by accomplishments of perfection. It exists because you exist.
Faith, at its core, is about choice. God gives us choice again and again. What I wish more people understood is that there is a profound difference between denying who you are and fighting for who you want to be. One is rooted in shame and fear while the other is rooted in agency, values, and hope.
Change
Somehow, “change” has become a dirty word. But change is not self-betrayal. Change is not self-hatred. Change is part of what it means to be alive. We are meant to grow, to stretch, and to become more aligned with what matters most to us. Every meaningful life demands sacrifices of some kind.
To those who feel fulfilled and at peace living an LGBT life, I genuinely accept and even respect their choice to do what they believe is right for them. I respect the fight many have endured to be seen, valued, and safe in a world that has often been cruel and rejecting. Respect and acceptance are not endorsement.
What I struggle to understand is why that fight sometimes includes denying me the right to choose differently.
Faith
I chose faith. I chose it freely. Without it, I would lose something essential—something that gives my life meaning, direction, and purpose. My faith is not a side detail of who I am. It is a core part of why I am alive and how I understand my purpose in the world. It means more to me than my homosexuality ever could.
So I choose this life. I choose this challenge. Not because it is easy, but because it is honest for me. Not because I hate myself, but because I love myself and God. And I want my choices, and those of men like me, to receive the same respect as any other choice.