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Join our Brothers Road Online Communities!

 

You don’t have to go through this alone anymore. We are right there with you, as close as the nearest computer or mobile device.

We strive to create safe, supportive, non-judgmental online communities where you can give and receive support and process some of the often messy emotions and experiences of life.

BrothersRoad.online

This is a PRIVATE online community for same-sex-attracted men who choose to explore potential alternatives to embracing a gay identity and living a gay life. We seek instead to understand, accept, manage, or even minimize the sexual feelings and behaviors that conflict with our values, faith, beliefs, or life goals.

As a PRIVATE group, only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join, go to https://BrothersRoad.online.

But first, read the group rules and agreements carefully and make sure you can agree to keep them:

1) We never post, send, or encourage erotic or flirtatious content.

We never post, send, request, or encourage naked pictures or erotic or flirtatious messages or pictures. We never try to enlist someone in an erotic discussion or sexual encounter. This applies both to public posts that the whole group sees and private one-to-one messages.

2) We do our part to keep this community safe and focused on its intended purpose.

We promise to report any member who approaches us (or someone else) sexually or breaks the first rule above (contact richwyler@brothersroad.org or go to https://brothersroad.org/integritydisclosure).

3) We maintain and respect confidentiality.

We maintain strict confidentiality of what is shared here and the identities of the group members.

4) We share authentic feelings here.

Authentic feelings are welcome here. We recognize that we are naturally going to experience frustration, doubt, challenges, and struggles on this journey at times, as well as hope, successes, breakthroughs, and victories.

5) We empathize, support, and encourage. We are always polite and civil.

We offer support and encouragement to others in the group — and never undermine anyone’s efforts at personal growth, change, and inner healing.

We remain polite and civil at all times.

We respond to others with empathy, support, encouragement, and acceptance. We do not give advice (unless a man has specifically asked for advice or suggestions).

6) We respect religious differences and never debate religion or theology.

We do not debate religion or theology, nor speak ill of someone else’s religion. But we are welcome to share our own personal thoughts and feelings on spiritual or religious matters and how they affect us, as long as we’re not trying to convert or convince anyone else.

7) We don’t debate or discuss political issues.

We do not discuss or debate political issues, with one exception: We may at times discuss and encourage efforts to keep therapy and support programs that help people address their unwanted same-sex attractions and behaviors legal, accessible, and appropriate.

8) We keep posts relevant.

We keep our posts at least somewhat relevant to the purpose of the group, without bringing in clearly extraneous outside causes or enterprises. (A little humor may be welcome sometimes, though!)

9) This is not a “gay pride” platform.

We share here about how to live with same-sex attractions in a way that aligns with our faith and values, or how to manage or minimize our same-sex attractions, to the extent possible.

We don’t promote programs or share messages counter to our community’s mission and vision (https://brothersroad.org/mission-vision/).

10) We don’t criticize LGBTQ people.

We don’t express hostility toward those who identify or live as LGBTQ. In fact, we show respect for everyone’s right to self-determination, including their right to pursue a gay life, if they choose. (In short, no “gay bashing.”)

If you can agree to these rules, go to https://BrothersRoad.online and join us!

JiMBrothers.online

This is a PRIVATE online community exclusively for men who have experienced Journey Into Manhood and who continue on a journey of growth, healing, and brotherhood while working to minimize or manage their sexualization of other men.

As a PRIVATE group, only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join, go to https://JiMBrothers.online.

But first, read the group rules and agreements carefully and make sure you can agree to keep them:

1) We never post, send, or encourage erotic or flirtatious content.

We never post, send, request, or encourage naked pictures or erotic or flirtatious messages or pictures. We never try to enlist someone in an erotic discussion or sexual encounter. This applies both to public posts that the whole group sees and private one-to-one messages.

2) We never “act out” with JiM brothers.

We honor the commitments we made at Journey Into Manhood to never become sexually, romantically or inappropriately involved with a JiM brother.

3) We do our part to keep this community safe and focused on its intended purpose.

We promise to report any member who approaches us (or someone else) sexually or breaks the first two rules above (contact richwyler@brothersroad.org or go to https://brothersroad.org/integritydisclosure)

4) We maintain and respect confidentiality.

We maintain strict confidentiality of what is shared here and the identities of the group members.

5) We share authentic feelings here.

Authentic feelings are welcome here. We recognize that we are naturally going to experience frustration, doubt, challenges, and struggles on this journey at times, as well as hope, successes, breakthroughs, and victories.

6) We empathize, support, and encourage. We are always polite and civil.

We offer support and encouragement to others in the group — and never undermine anyone’s efforts at personal growth, change, and inner healing.

We remain polite and civil at all times.

We respond to others with empathy, support, encouragement, and acceptance. We do not give advice (unless a man has specifically asked for advice or suggestions).

7) We respect religious differences and never debate religion or theology.

We do not debate religion or theology, nor speak ill of someone else’s religion. But we are welcome to share our own personal thoughts and feelings on spiritual or religious matters and how they affect us, as long as we’re not trying to convert or convince anyone else.

8) We don’t debate or discuss political issues.

We do not discuss or debate political issues, with one exception: We may at times discuss and encourage efforts to keep therapy and support programs that help people address their unwanted same-sex attractions and behaviors legal, accessible, and appropriate.

9) We keep posts relevant.

We keep our posts at least somewhat relevant to the purpose of the group, without bringing in clearly extraneous outside causes or enterprises. (A little humor may be welcome sometimes, though!)

10) This is not a “gay pride” platform.

We share here about how to live with same-sex attractions in a way that aligns with our faith and values, or how to manage or minimize our same-sex attractions, to the extent possible.

We don’t promote programs or share messages counter to our community’s mission and vision (https://brothersroad.org/mission-vision/).

11) We don’t criticize LGBTQ people.

We don’t express hostility toward those who identify or live as LGBTQ. In fact, we show respect for everyone’s right to self-determination, including their right to pursue a gay life, if they choose. (In short, no “gay bashing.”)

If you can agree to these rules, go to https://JiMBrothers.online and join us!

Journey Beyond Alumni

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for men who have participated in the Journey Beyond program any time since its beginning in 2005 and who continue on a journey of growth, healing and brotherhood while working to minimize or manage their sexualization of other men.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

  1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
  2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself, including WHEN AND WHERE you went through Journey Beyond and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
  3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.

Married to an SSA Man

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for women who love men who experience same-sex attractions, whether those men identify as gay or are pursuing a path of minimizing or managing their SSA feelings. Women whose husbands deal with sexual addictions of any kind, including heterosexual affairs, are also welcome.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

  1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
  2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
  3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.

Marriage, SSA & Real Life

 This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for heterosexually married men or women or couples who are in so-called “mixed-orientation marriages” or who otherwise deal with either partner’s same-sex attraction, sexual addictions or unfaithfulness.

Wives or husbands are welcome to join individually or jointly.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

  1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
  2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
  3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.

A Woman Who Loves Alumni

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for women have participated in the “Woman Who Loves” weekend program (formerly known as “A Wife’s Healing Journey”) any time since its beginning in 2009 and who continue on a journey of growth and healing.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

  1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
  2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself, including WHEN AND WHERE you went through the weekend and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
  3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.

Our Stories

This is a secret group intended as a highly confidential and supportive environment for women who have completed A Woman Who Loves (formerly known as A Wife’s Healing Journey) program any time since its beginning in 2009 and who continue on a journey of growth and healing.

This Facebook group has been my lifeline when I thought there no hope in sight.

Christi, Pennsylvania, USA

This group has brought so much hope and understanding at one of the darkest times in my life

Rue, Mississippi, USA

This wonderful group took me from a place of secrecy with no voice to words of affirmation and a sisterhood.

Maureen, Florida, USA

Knowing I am not alone in this journey and have the support of other women who “get it” helps me move forward in life and become stronger.

Jill, Illinois, USA

After discovery, I felt so alone and hopeless. This group brought the affirmation and friendship and encourage that I needed to move forward in my healing. I don’t know where I’d be without these strong ladies!

Heather, Pennsylvania, USA

Being part of the Facebook groups offers me wonderful opportunities to interact with my fellow “journeyers” in this work. My experience, strength and hope can help those who walk this walk, especially those who have fallen into despair and hopelessness. And I benefit from the experience, strength and hope of others, as well.

Harvey, Ontario, Canada