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Join our Brothers Road Online Communities!

Why You Should Join Us

We are a diverse and international brotherhood of, primarily, bisexual or same-sex-attracted men who place our personal values, faith, beliefs, and life goals first, above our sexual feelings and choices.

You are NOT the only man attracted to other men who would rather experience loving platonic brotherhood — and courageously work through underlying issues — than embrace an identity and lifestyle that make his sexual feelings and urges the most important things in his life.

In this community, we lovingly encourage and support each other in exploring and addressing underlying issues that may be at the root of some of our inner conflicts around our sexuality, faith, masculinity, and self-esteem.

You don’t have to go through this alone anymore. We are right there with you, as close as the nearest computer or mobile device.

We strive to create safe, supportive, non-judgmental online communities where you can give and receive support and process some of the often messy emotions and experiences of life.

BrothersRoad.online

This is a PRIVATE online community for same-sex-attracted men who choose to explore potential alternatives to embracing a gay identity and living a gay life. We seek instead to understand, accept, manage, or even minimize the sexual feelings and behaviors that conflict with our values, faith, beliefs, or life goals. MORE >>

Married to an SSA Man

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for women who love men who experience same-sex attractions, whether those men identify as gay or are pursuing a path of minimizing or managing their SSA feelings. Women whose husbands deal with sexual addictions of any kind, including heterosexual affairs, are also welcome. MORE >>

Marriage, SSA & Real Life

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for heterosexually married men or women or couples who are in so-called “mixed-orientation marriages” or who otherwise deal with either partner’s same-sex attraction, sexual addictions or unfaithfulness. MORE >>

Our Online Communities

Group Descriptions, Rules & Agreements, and How to Join

BrothersRoad.Online

This PRIVATE online community is for same-sex-attracted men who choose to explore potential alternatives to embracing a gay identity and living a gay life. We seek instead to understand, accept, manage, or even minimize the sexual feelings and behaviors that conflict with our values, faith, beliefs, or life goals.

As a PRIVATE group, only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join, go to https://BrothersRoad.online.

Rules & Agreements

Please read the group rules and agreements carefully and make sure you can agree to keep them.

  1. We never post, send, or encourage erotic or flirtatious content.
    We never post, send, request, or encourage naked pictures or erotic or flirtatious messages or pictures. We never try to enlist someone in an erotic discussion or sexual encounter. This applies both to public posts that the whole group sees and private one-to-one messages.
  2. We do our part to keep this community safe and focused on its intended purpose.
    We promise to report any member who approaches us (or someone else) sexually or breaks the first rule above (contact [email protected] or go to https://brothersroad.org/integritydisclosure)
  3. We maintain and respect confidentiality.
    We maintain strict confidentiality of what is shared here and the identities of the group members.
  4. We share authentic feelings here.
    Authentic feelings are welcome here. We recognize that we are naturally going to experience frustration, doubt, challenges, and struggles on this journey at times, as well as hope, successes, breakthroughs, and victories.
  5. We empathize, support, and encourage. We are always polite and civil.
    We offer support and encouragement to others in the group — and never undermine anyone’s efforts at personal growth, change, and inner healing.
    We remain polite and civil at all times.
    We respond to others with empathy, support, encouragement, and acceptance. We do not give advice (unless a man has specifically asked for advice or suggestions).
  6. We respect religious differences and never debate religion or theology.
    We do not debate religion or theology, nor speak ill of someone else’s religion. But we are welcome to share our own personal thoughts and feelings on spiritual or religious matters and how they affect us, as long as we’re not trying to convert or convince anyone else.
  7. We don’t debate or discuss political issues.
    We do not discuss or debate political issues, with one exception: We may at times discuss and encourage efforts to keep therapy and support programs that help people address their unwanted same-sex attractions and behaviors legal, accessible, and appropriate.
  8. We keep posts relevant.
    We keep our posts at least somewhat relevant to the purpose of the group, without bringing in clearly extraneous outside causes or enterprises. (A little humor may be welcome sometimes, though!)
  9. This is not a “gay pride” platform.
    We share here about how to live with same-sex attractions in a way that aligns with our faith and values, or how to manage or minimize our same-sex attractions, to the extent possible.
    We don’t promote programs or share messages counter to our community’s mission and vision (https://brothersroad.org/mission-vision/).
  10. We don’t criticize LGBTQ people.
    We don’t express hostility toward those who identify or live as LGBTQ. In fact, we show respect for everyone’s right to self-determination, including their right to pursue a gay life, if they choose. (In short, no “gay bashing.”)

If you can agree to these rules, go to https://BrothersRoad.online and join us!

Married to an SSA Man

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for women who love men who experience same-sex attractions, whether those men identify as gay or are pursuing a path of minimizing or managing their SSA feelings. Women whose husbands deal with sexual addictions of any kind, including heterosexual affairs, are also welcome.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

  1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
  2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
  3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.

Marriage, SSA, & Real Life

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for heterosexually married men or women or couples who are in so-called “mixed-orientation marriages” or who otherwise deal with either partner’s same-sex attraction, sexual addictions or unfaithfulness.

Wives or husbands are welcome to join individually or jointly.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

  1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
  2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
  3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.