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For the Man Who’s Tired of Fighting Himself — and Ready to Stop

For the Man Who’s Tired of Fighting Himself — and Ready to Stop

Guest blog by Sholom— You’ve been carrying something that was never meant to be permanent. Maybe it’s time to put it down. There’s a shadow that follows many of us into the room — into men’s spaces, into prayer, into the quiet moments before sleep....
What to Do When Your Family Can’t Love You the Way You Need

What to Do When Your Family Can’t Love You the Way You Need

Blog by Sholom— When a man does his work and begins to understand himself better — his needs, his wounds, his longing for connection — a frightening question often arises: What if the people I love most will never be able to love me in the way I need? It’s a fair...
Beyond Good Enough: Letting Go of Endlessly Striving for More

Beyond Good Enough: Letting Go of Endlessly Striving for More

Guest blog by Sholom— There’s this horizon people seem to be traveling toward. I know I’ve been trying to. A mystical destination just beyond the horizon where things will be bigger, better, safer, warmer, and more enlightened. Many spend their entire...
Fathering the UnFathered—Father Wounds, Masculinity, and Healing

Fathering the UnFathered—Father Wounds, Masculinity, and Healing

Guest blog by Sholom— For many men who experience same-sex attraction (SSA), and many men in general, there lies a deeper story beneath the surface of yearning or desire.  A story not only about sexuality, but about longing, loss, and the ache for connection that was...
Healing Takes Time: Why Going Slow Is Not a Failure

Healing Takes Time: Why Going Slow Is Not a Failure

Guest blog by Sholom— For those of us walking a path of healing, it’s easy to get caught in a loop of urgency. We want to feel better now. We want to move forward, shed old patterns, find peace, love well, and live free. Urgency can feel like a push toward survival,...