Rules & Agreements

Please read the group rules and agreements carefully and make sure you can agree to keep them.

1. We never post, send, or encourage erotic or flirtatious content.

   We never post, send, request, or encourage naked or shirtless pictures or erotic or flirtatious messages. We never try to enlist someone in an erotic discussion or sexual encounter. This applies to all men you meet through the Brothers Road community, whether to public posts that the whole group sees or to private one-to-one messages on the Brothers Road network AS WELL AS to communications on any other platforms. 

2. We do our part to keep this community safe and focused on its intended purpose.
   We promise to report any member who approaches us (or someone else) sexually or breaks the first rule above (contact [email protected] or go to https://brothersroad.org/integritydisclosure)
3. We maintain and respect confidentiality.
   We maintain strict confidentiality of what is shared here and the identities of the group members.
4. We share authentic feelings here.
   Authentic feelings are welcome here. We recognize that we are naturally going to experience frustration, doubt, challenges, and struggles on this journey at times, as well as hope, successes, breakthroughs, and victories.
5. We empathize, support, and encourage. We are always polite and civil.
   We offer support and encouragement to others in the group — and never undermine anyone’s efforts at personal growth, change, and inner healing.
   We remain polite and civil at all times.
   We respond to others with empathy, support, encouragement, and acceptance. We do not give advice (unless a man has specifically asked for advice or suggestions).
6. We respect religious differences and never debate religion or theology.
   We do not debate religion or theology, nor speak ill of someone else’s religion. But we are welcome to share our own personal thoughts and feelings on spiritual or religious matters and how they affect us, as long as we’re not trying to convert or convince anyone else.
7. We don’t debate or discuss political issues.
   We do not discuss or debate political issues, with one exception: We may at times discuss and encourage efforts to keep therapy and support programs that help people address their unwanted same-sex attractions and behaviors legal, accessible, and appropriate.
8. We keep posts relevant.
   We keep our posts at least somewhat relevant to the purpose of the group, without bringing in clearly extraneous outside causes or enterprises. (A little humor may be welcome sometimes, though!)
9. This is not a “gay pride” platform.
   We share here about how to live with same-sex attractions in a way that aligns with our faith and values, or how to manage or minimize our same-sex attractions, to the extent possible.
   We don’t promote programs or share messages counter to our community’s mission and vision (https://brothersroad.org/mission-vision/).
10. We don’t criticize LGBTQ people.
    We don’t express hostility toward those who identify or live as LGBTQ. In fact, we show respect for everyone’s right to self-determination, including their right to pursue a gay life, if they choose. (In short, no “gay bashing.”)

If you can agree to these rules, go to https://BrothersRoad.online and join us!

Married to an SSA Man

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for women who love men who experience same-sex attractions, whether those men identify as gay or are pursuing a path of minimizing or managing their SSA feelings. Women whose husbands deal with sexual addictions of any kind, including heterosexual affairs, are also welcome.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.

Marriage, SSA, & Real Life

This is a PRIVATE Facebook group for heterosexually married men or women or couples who are in so-called “mixed-orientation marriages” or who otherwise deal with either partner’s same-sex attraction, sexual addictions or unfaithfulness.

Wives or husbands are welcome to join individually or jointly.

As a PRIVATE group, anyone can find the group on Facebook and read about its purpose, but only members can see who is in the group or what they share.

To join:

1. Click here to go to the Facebook group.
2. Click “Join Group” and write a short description of yourself and why you want to join. We will post this as your self-description to the group when we welcome and introduce you.
3. Read and agree to the group rules.

A moderator will likely approve your request within a day or two.